PROMOTION Top tips for successful co-parenting over the festive season hristmas is notoriously difficult for families who are no longer living together. It can become a time of dread and fear. With a bit of planning. it does not have to be this way. Here is our Christmas list of tips to help you ensure that the holiday period is as harmonious as possible. I. Children Put your children first. Consider what is best for your children over the holiday period. It is a common misconception that parents have a right to see and spend time with their children, but the law states that it is in fact the child's rights that will be considered should legal action be 2. Relatives Children may want to see relatives who are special to them over the holiday period too. Factor the needs of relatives, into your holiday arrangements if you can 3. Presents Like it or not Christmas ultimately means one most important thing to children-presentst Wherever possible talk or communicate with one another about Christmas presents and consider whether a joint present might be appropriate. Consult with them and either set budget guidelines or share the cost 4.Talking Communication is the key to success. Even though it may be hard, try to keep channels of communication open with your ex-partner. 5. Manage expectations The first Christmas after a separation or divorce can be a confusing and a difficult time for everyone. Try your best to manage expectations so that everyone, particularly your children, know what to Agree arrangements Agree arrangements as far ahead as possible and try to be flesxible for the sake ofyour children. Once you have agreed arrangements, try to keep to them 7.Sharing You and your partner will want to spend as much time as possible with your children over the festive season. Try to view things from the point of view of the children, rather than thinking about what you want 8. Make the most of your time together It can be upsetting not being able to spend time with your children on Christmas Day, but if you get it right, you and the children can thoroughly enjoy having two days to celebrate. Lawyers can do a lot to help parents who cannot agree arrangements for the festive period to help to resolve these differences through mediation, negotiation or, ifabsolutely necessary, the court. If you woukd like further information in relation to children matters or family law generally, please contact one ofour family solicitors at Debenhams Otaway. advice please contact Natalie Lester, Family Solicitor Debenhams Ottaway T: 01727 735612 E: NLG W: debenhamsottaway.co.uk DEBENHAMS O1TAWAY SOLICITORS Your aspirations are our inspiration